It’s not easy raising a family with your husband gone so much. And being home by yourself is lonely. My husband worked a lot too. The kiddos grow so fast though enjoy this time with them. I really miss those days and don’t regret a minute of it. It’s hard not to have everything you’ve dreamed of but God has s plan for you. Here I am in my 70’s. My husband and I were so ready to be grandparents. All my siblings have lots of grandchildren and great grandchildren. We have one who is autistic and is 13 with the maturity of a five year old. We only see him twice a year at best. The parents divorced and fight over custody. So God did not have it in his plan for us to have grandchildren so I volunteer to babysit at the homeless shelter when they need someone. Life is not fair. Hang in there your rewards will be more than you can imagine.
Life has so many ups and downs. I could write about my struggles esp. after our first child was born and he had so many issues esp. in regard to convulsions and fever etc. I would have to stay home from school and rub him down with tepid water to keep fever down and get up at 3 am to put in aspirin suppositories and on and on . It seemed I was free and easy and suddenly trapped in this but it all worked out eventually but there would always be something else. My husband was loving but worked long hours as well. As the years went on I grew and grew in my faith and now I’ve learned to surrender it all to God and Mother Mary. My Mother lived an hour away but did help me a lot when I really needed her with help for our kids . I guess that is why I feel that when our daughter needs me I jump to help but she is careful not to overload . I also helped our son’s children when they were growing trying to care for them etc but really don’t feel they really appreciate how much we did. And now he is lost to us and them. However those kids are seemingly doing well academically and work wise. One of those kids of our son was having issues in doing his work in school in Primary and grade one and the teacher was sending home all his unfinished papers. His mother was exasperated and landed at my house one day and said .”You were a teacher . We can’t get him to do his work Please help” So ok after she left I checked him orally and he knew all the answers. When she came to pick him up they were all completed by him. She was flabbergasted! I know it was God who answered my prayer as it popped in my head to get him to try a gel pen . Lickety split a stack of papers all done. I even said”We better stop and have a little recess” So long story short it was the pencil that he couldn’t stand the sound it was making.He said it sounded like nails scratching on the blackboard. It increased my faith so much— so much trauma and such a simple solution. God will Bless you many times over- keep trusting PurpleFlower. I will pray for you.
PF, so much great advice and personal stories shared. I don't think I can add anything, but be assured, you will be in my prayers.
Oh PurpleFlower such a sorrowful post. What you have said here many of us have prayed about too. God truly loves all of us, though it may seem he favors others more it isn't the case. Through many hardships in life, I always repeat to myself that he would not give me more than I can handle and I must be one tough cookie cus he tends to throw the whole bowl of batter at me. Offer a prayer of Thanksgiving for these moments and seriously stop and look at the sky and notice the artwork Our Lord created as he chose you to handle the stress. In those moments of doubts and fears kick, that bugger to the foot of the cross and reproach him. You and your husband have come through some tough spots and God is proud cus he is throwing the bowl of batter at you. Make him the best batch of cookies with it. Prayers and much love going up for your family.
Such lovely posts. They are inspirational for me to read. We all bear the scars but they are our stripes that get us to heaven. As Julian of Norwich says if we view things that happen in our lives as matters of bad luck or happy chance we lack divine sight. All events are in God's hands. She says, I came to know that my task is to assent to God's will with reverence and rejoice in all his work.
Your analogy is perfect. The whole bowl of batter! I love it. And the best line of all--make the best batch of cookies. Perfect MC.
I don't have much to add except my prayers for you Purple Flower. There is a common thread among all of the wonderful stories shared here, they come straight from the heart. You couldn't find any better advice than right here in Mary's little house.
That is the truth! That's why I tell y'all all about what a wreck I am, because y'all have the best holy advice. I'm so blessed to have found this site, because you all feel like family!
Thank you. I definitely don't want this time with young children to be over. I love it! I just want to be a more patient mother and do a better job with everything.
That's wonderful that you figured that out and helped your grandson! What a great grandma. I hope God blesses me with many grandchildren that stay nearby.
I understand so much how you feel! I daily feel like a failure as a mother. My husband’s family has a similar situation between him and his brother. My husband works very hard for everything, but his parents have in the past many times just given his younger brother the exact thing my husband just worked hard for, just because they felt sorry for him. For example, my husband worked to buy himself an old farm truck at age 18. The next week, his parents bought his brother a Camaro. I will pray for you! Don’t listen to the voice of discouragement.
This is what I hope God will help me with. I truly want His Will, and I know His plan for me is perfect...I just need my feelings to catch up and stop dragging me down!
