http://www.catholicanchor.org/wordpress/?p=3173 Say that many have misconceptions about confession By JAMES DECRANE CatholicAnchor.org Like lancing a boil or going to the dentist, the thought of going to confession stirs up powerful emotions in Catholics. Some fear it. Others feel embarrassment. A great deal of anxiety seems to accompany most Catholics before they enter the confessional. That anxiety keeps 45 percent of Catholics away from the so-called “lost sacrament,” according to a poll conducted in 2008 by the Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate or CARA. Yet for Catholic priests, including many in the Archdiocese of Anchorage, hearing confessions and giving absolution is one of the most rewarding aspects of their priesthood. According to Dominican priest Father Vincent Kelber of Holy Family Cathedral in Anchorage, confession is a sacrament many do not truly understand. MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUND “People are afraid to go to confession,” he admitted. “We allow ourselves to have misconceptions about it.” The pastor of St. Nicholas of Myra Byzantine Catholic Church Father James Barrand thinks the misconceptions are due to in part to a lack of proper teaching. “There is a lack of formal catechesis on the types and serious effects of sins. Priests are afraid to discuss sins for fear of offending individuals, so our people’s understanding of sin or transgressions is formulated by pop culture,” he explained. Father Kelber agreed and stressed the urgency of educating Catholics about the importance of the sacrament — breaking down false beliefs and fears. “If you make it available and preach it, people will use it,” he said. The biggest misconception Anchorage priests say they hear about the sacrament is the idea that people need only go directly to God for forgiveness and skip the confessional. The error in this belief lies in the difference between forgiveness and absolution, Father Kelber explained. HEALING THROUGH ABSOLUTION He said that a deep transformation occurs in confession “where the Holy Spirit enters into a person for true healing.” Father Barrand agreed and quickly pointed out the priest’s unique role in confession. “In confession … the penitent speaks directly to Christ, forgiveness always comes directly from God,” he explained, “while the priest is the witness to this holy action and is the voice of Christ declaring the absolution.” Absolution is the moment when the priest, through the work of Christ, absolves the penitent from his or her sin. It is during absolution where priests say they are amazed and humbled at being able to see the effects of this healing right in the confessional. “I can physically see in the person’s face or hear it in their voice the sense of peace after I give absolution,” Father Kelber said. “There is a comfort that comes from being able to hear the words.” NO SIN TOO SHOCKING Priests say one reason many shy away from the sacrament is due to embarrassment. But they add that this should not stop people from going. Father Vincent told the Catholic Anchor that he has heard it all — from organized crime to Satanism. “We’ve heard so much, we know what people are capable of doing. Even good people do crazy things sometimes,” he said. “But we’re not interested in how you came … we’re interested in how you leave.” Father Tom Brundage of St. Andrew Church in Eagle River also stressed the importance of the confidentiality of the sacrament. “This is a unique sacrament because of its private nature,” he explained. “Most sacraments are very public, but here it is the penitent, the priest and God alone in conversation.” Father Brundage also made it clear that a priest is bound by a sacred seal to never discuss or act on anything heard in the confession. PRIESTS CONFESS TOO All three priests also asked that people need to remember that they need to go to confession just like everybody else. “Every priest, nun, bishop and pope is required to go to confession, just like any of the faithful,” Father Barrand said. “We’re all in the same boat and in need of our Lord’s mercy and compassion.” “I get nervous when I go to confession myself,” Father Kelber said. “I know what it’s like!” Father Tom Brundage agreed. “We’re all sinners, so join the club,” he said. INNER PEACE “Yes, it is sometimes uncomfortable to go to confession … who likes going to the dentist or even the doctor?” Father James Barrand said. “But the relief, the joy of the cessation of the pain afterwards, is most rewarding. When people hear our Lord [through the priest] pronounce the absolution — “I forgive you all of your sins” — they will experience elation in their souls — the peace and joy Adam must have felt in the garden after creation.” In addition to the spiritual healing, Father Kelber pointed out the human benefits of confession as well. “Being able to hear the words is so important,” he said. “There is a reason why after the “Our Father” [in the Mass] the priest says the line about delivering us from all anxiety.” In fact, in addition to the deep spiritual healing, there is physiological evidence that confession is good for the human psyche. “It is great when doctors acknowledge the importance of confession — and the overlapping of the two,” Father Kelber said. “The good psychologists and priests see the overlap between the two — they are tools that work together.” The bottom line, according to all the priests: confession helps a person not only be a healthier individual but one on the right path to virtue and holiness. “When we look to some of the greatest of our saints, even those of recent memory, we find men and women who strove their whole lives to achieve perfection through sanctification which they obtained by frequent confessions and Communion,” Father Barrand said.
The link is the same message as is above...probably just the link would have been sufficient...boy you are challenging me on long posts! LOL Many priests are really trying hard to revive the Sacrament of Confession, and Medjugorje is helping with this immensely too. I think changing the name to "Reconciliation" did not help matters...though this happened when I was a kid in Catholic school, I never liked it and I have never thought it the right thing to call it. To me it made it less important, less necessary, less special. For a while they called it the Sacrament of Penance...that was ok, but Reconciliation just never seemed to fit with me.
Sorry about the longs posts, was thinking some might not be able access just the links... I feel the same as you do...
] I think by its very nature the Sacrament of Confession must be difficult ,rather than easy. After it is over it is wonderful, but you know as I get older I find it harder rather than easier. I think ,when they named it , 'The RIte of Reconciliation' , they were trying to rebrand it and make it lighter, easier and more popular. But I suspect it was never meant to be , 'easy'. In the story of the Prodigal son, we see the son doing just about everything he could to avoid going home, including eating the food meant for the pigs. His path home must have been very,very hard, marked by footsteps of blood and he never expected much , just to be father's servant. But when he got there it was all wonderful and the fatted calve was killed. I am going to Confession in a couple of hours but not to my local parish , I will go to a monastery, where hopefully they will not know me. There was a time I would not have hesitated to go to my local church but as I say I don't find it so easy, now I am older and prefer to go to a stranger. But on the other hand the joy after is indescribable. ]
I know what you mean, Padriag, sometimes I prefer to go to a stranger also...depends on what is troubling me..maybe that is silly, I don't know. I also want to go this afternooon. I think everyone can follow links, I think Padraig prefers that we do that instead of reposting an entire article here when it is logical to do so, right Padraig? I do know that some people cannot view videos or some photos well, if they are using phones and such, but I think everyone can go to a link. JMJ, can you go to a link? I know you have trouble with videos.
I have my favorite confessor, the Byzantine Priest. He is so immersed in God and the Holy Spirit I'm not even sure he's aware of who's in front of him, hes just so on task. He looks above my head and it's as if he's looking beyond the veil to see what's really at the core of my confession. He's from a farming village in Slovenia and so he's geared for the process of life, no instant pudding for this one. I like that. My penances usually reflect that nature in him.
I think Connie Pope JP2 put his finger on things when he said tht people had, 'Lost their sense of sin'. That's how bad its got, not that people are afraid to go...as once may have been the case but nowadys they simply don't believe they are doing wrong. There is a Catholic guy at work who was divorced from his wife many, many years ago. Now he has fallen in love with another lady. Everyone in work is telling him how romantic and wonderful it all is. But Me? I think its terrible, bacuse I am a Catholic and do not believe such a relationship can lead anywhere execpt, very possibly to hell. But I cannnot tell him that for he would simply think me mad..as indeed would all my fellow Catholics there. That for me is it in a nutshell. that's how far we have all come. To a place were all is very dark and silent. Where we, each of us can walk a dark and lonely road to perdition, with not a voice to call us back, nor indeed a voice we would listen to. Perhaps this is why God is more and more directly doing the talking Himself and is sending His Mother to do the talking for us.
