My husband left me 2 weeks after giving birth. My life is devastated. I always thought its the end of the world for me, i feel so desperate. I have four kids and i dont have work. I decided to go back to God and be with him, i know God is calling me. For 11 years i had forsaken God. I am thankful for what had happened because it draw me closer to God. Now that I have God in my life, I know i can still save marriage. I know it will take time and effort to do so. God made me realize all the mistakes that I have done in the past and Im paying it one little by little. I always believe that prayers are powerful. I know God can change my spouse mind, heart and his own being.
Vanessa, I am so, so sorry. I went through a similar situation. My wife left me flat and I thought everything was over. I didn't turn to God though. I was very, very angry. You are on the right path though. Turning to God will help you a lot. And prayer is soooo powerful. I never knew how much until the past couple of years. One thing to remember though, if it doesn't seem like God is answering your prayers there is a reason. He will always do what is best for the salvation of your soul. Sometimes we ask for things that would not be good for us and we don't realize it. He may answer our prayers later or in a different way than we expect. We may need to go through painful experiences for that to happen. Turn to Our Lady in prayer also. She is a Mother who experienced great pain. I will pray for you.
Hello praetorian, thanks so much for reading my forum. i know its hard and its very painful. But i know i can do this. And you're right having to be the center of my life is a great help. Thank you for your prayers. I know and I can still save my marriage in God's time. God bless you!
You are welcome Vanessa. I pray there is still time to save your marriage. Our Lady will help you if you ask Her. May Our Lord and Our Lady watch over and protect you, your children, and your husband.
• There are times in all of our lives when the wine can run out, especially in relationships. Meditating on this passage from John’s Gospel and praying the second Mystery of Light is a most powerful prayer for improving and healing relationships, be it with friends, family, marriage, enemies – or even with Jesus himself. Pray the rosary decade and meditate on the mystery every day and see the new wine begin to flow in relationships – be it for yourself or for others! Note that the miracle didn’t happen until the water jars were filled to the brim. The water is prayer. THE WEDDING AT CANA There was a wedding at Cana, in Galilee, The mother of Jesus was there, and Jeus and his disciples had also been invited. When they ran out of wine, since the wine provided for the wedding was all finished, the mother of Jesus said to him, “They have no wine.” Jesus said, “Woman, why turn to me? My hour has not come yet.” His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.” There were six stone water jars standing there, meant for the ablutions that are customary among the Jews: each could hold twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to the servants, “Fill the jars with water”, and they filled them to the brim. “Draw some out now” he told them “and take it to the steward.” They did this; the steward tasted the water, and it had turned into wine. Having no idea where it came from – only the servants who had drawn the water knew – the steward called the bridegroom and said, “People generally serve the best wine first, and keep the cheaper sort till the guests have had plenty to drink; but you have kept the best wine till now.” This was the first of the signs given by Jesus: it was given at Cana in Galilee. He let his glory be seen, and his disciples believed in him. After this he went down to Capernaum with his mother and the brothers, but they stayed there only a few days. John 2 : 1-12
Vanessa, sorry to hear you have been left alone with the children. May God send your guardian angel to comfort and support you. Do you know of the devotion to Jesus, King of all Nations. Part of one of the prayers seems so relevant to your family situation. Father, forgive our sinfulness, Heal our brokenness, and renew our hearts in the Faith, and Love, Peace and Joy of Your kingdom. That we may all be one in You. Amen
Thank you so much Julia. Im still coping up and recovering from my situation. God bless your pure heart.
I've recently been through some very difficult times that are similar to what you are suffering. In addition to the Rosary I would recommend this Chaplet as I believe it played an integral role in the resolution of our troubles: http://motheofgod.com/threads/prayer-request-chaplet-of-the-holy-face.9916/
Prayers for you Vanessa. Through the day. I am rushing off to work so must answer later. I saw a picture yesterday morning of a young baby with a massive face tumour. In the face of some peoples suffering I often feel the urge to simply pray. I can recommend a good book by a Jewish Rabbi before I go.
I will write again in the morning ,Vanessa , I have been praying and thinking about all this through the day. Sometimes other peoples Crosses seem so huge I just fall silent and look at the Cross. Such mystery.
Vanessa, just read thru this thread and I too will pray for your situation. God bless and protect you and your family. Keep praying and keep your eyes on Jesus.
Vanessa , I was thinking and praying about your question this morning and praying to the Lord about it. Compassion has a heavy price when we enter into another persons sufferings in some little sense we share their Cross a little. While I was praying about this the Lord gently explained to me that the reason why I felt so silent and helpless was that your Cross was not my Cross. In as much as it is not my Cross I am not given the the grace to bear it. Their is an old saying in Ireland, 'God gives the shoulder to bear the Cross'. In as much as it not my Cross I have not been given this shoulder to Carry it. I remember one time Padre Pio was asked which of his stigmata, the marks of the Cross . He answered that it was the wound on his shoulder were Jesus carried His Cross. I can well believe this. I have long held a huge respect for President Lincoln , mostly I think because of his compassion, a compassion and heart that bore his countries pains and divisions so deeply he became in a sense the very bleeding heart of his Nation., A compassion deep enough to write with love to a grieving mother and share her pain. He knew as I know that i cannot touch the bottom of your pain, for it is your pain , not mine. But be assured in prayer I will attempt to carry your Cross at least a few short steps of the way with you as you walk to your own Calvary. Tomororow I will take a step back and share some of the lessons I have learnt from bearing my own Cross. I am hope this will give some ointment to your own pains. But suffering is such a mystery , as I grow older I become more and more deeply in awe of it. The Huge Mystery of the Cross.
So strange, while I was making tea a few minutes ago I thought of this book in reference to this thread.
Vanessa, many crosses are being carried today. You have found the joy of your cross by finding your faith in God. For this you have been blessed, as it is the most important gift given to you. I will pray to the Flame of Love through the Immaculate Heart of Mary for you, your children and your husband. Pray, trust and don't worry, as you have a loving God who hears all your prayers.
While I was praying about this question last night I felt a burden from God to ask to pray for your husband. This may be a burden to you at this preesnt time but will make your prayers more especially powerful before God. I will join you in this. Pray for your husband
We are born into a war. Even as little tiny babies we enter into this war running on both tiny feet. For as Eve was warned after our parents First Fall, 16 To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” So we are born as soldiers of the first rank into a huge war between good and evil, in Great War between good and evil. It is our afflication to follow in the footsteps of our first parents who choose the Original Sin. Like all soldiers pain is our lot, the consequence of Battle. Now it seems to me that there are three types of suffering. There is what I would call the punitive, which we bring about by our own sins. Rather like a nasty and disobedient child who pulls a pot of hot water over herself despite her parents warning. A good example of this are those who choose the road of violence. For as Jesus said, 'He who lives by the sword will perish by the sword', the Mexican Drug Cartels and the Mafia are good examples of this. (Though since we are all sinners we all experience this pain to one degree or other). It is not simply a punishment but a spur to conversion. Hollywood is another good example of this. People choosing to live as their won Gods, thus the suicide rate their is atrocious. They experience the punitive pain of the absence of God in their lives. As St Augustine said, “Our hearts are restless, until they can find rest in you.”Augustine of Hippo (354–430), in Confessions. http://www.imdb.com/list/ls008788785/
